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the part where we talk about sex -or- how to get a yoga girl, part 3

11. January 2012 · Write a comment · Categories: damn hippies, how to change your mind

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Ah, the Second Chakra. The sexy one. Yep, located right in the center of the pelvis.

This one’s loaded.

The Second Chakra houses the energies of both money and sex, the sources of physical contact with the emotional plane. And I’m going to jump out on a limb here…if you’ve grown up in America, there’s a good chance your Second Chakra is totally whack.

So let’s talk about blocked chakras.

Chakra Two :: Water

It’s easy to get hung up on this one. Trust me, you’re not alone. The reason your girl does yoga is to create balance in her life. It helps her recognize re-occurring issues, observe them, make slow and steady change, and then move on.

If the second chakra is overactive, the result can surface as irresponsibility with money, a lack of sexual boundaries, addiction, gambling, and a host of other good fun. If the second chakra is blocked, the result shows up as frigidity, sensual selfishness, an unwillingness to part with any cash.

Heads up: take your time with this one.

Simple Meditation For Dudes

This exercise requires the use of your supersonic powers of observation and unbridled restraint.

Use your eyes. Watch. Spend time with her, keep this in mind:

If you want to see what your sex life will be like in two years, watch how your lady handles her money.

Does she spend frivilously on the very next thing and ignore the bills? Check for notches on the bedpost and a roaming heart. Is she tight with the funds? Good luck with that. If your girl won’t invest her money, it’s going to be a challenge to get her to invest her body too. I’m not saying it’s true in every case, but it might be a good indication.

So step up.

Because she can also see the same shit in you.

Yoga Girl doesn’t mean Perfect Girl. It means Girl With Awareness.

Girl With Insight. Girl Who Undertakes Change. Girl Who Sits, Copes, and Works Through Struggle.

Your Mantra: RESPECT.

A girl like that needs support. Encouragement. A soft place to land.

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Are you strong enough? No? Maybe? Head to the mat and get ready.

Because I am going to tell you a secret that will unlock the mystery of every single relationship in your life.

Right here. Right now.

We engage in a relationship with someone who possesses one of two things:

The same level of sickness -OR-
The same level of progress in healing

What the hell does that mean?

That means, my friend, that a girl who’s already been through her crap won’t give you the time of day if you’re still stuck in yours. And a girl who can’t see her own dizziness yet won’t feel anything for you beyond a carnal attraction laced with confusion, no matter how hard she tries. Even when she knows you’re a catch.

And if you both share the same level of fucked-up-ness? Well, those are the learning lessons you showed up here for.

Dodge your bullets. Choose your battles. Do the work.

Get the Girl

There’s no bullshit with this one. Take her on a date. A real one. Prepare to foot the bill.

Be a man.

I can pretty much guarantee you that women today are not accustomed to this. It’s old fashioned. It’s cool. It works.

But only if you don’t expect sex.

One of three things will happen when you pay for a date:

She will act like a princess who deserves it.
She will insist on being in control and fight you tooth and nail.
She will graciously accept the gift.

Men give. Women receive. We are literally designed that way (check your drawers if you don’t believe me). A date is a respectable representation of evaluating the climate of give and receive with a potential mate.

It’s not about putting out.

But it will certainly inform you of some mystical secrets, give you some insight about whether or not she’s worthy of what you have to give.

And if you have nothing to give?

Head to the mat. Ask yourself why. Listen to the answer. Be humble. Adjust. Release. Repeat.

That’s the work. Go do it.

So, Miss J, when is it time for sex?

When you can see your yoga girl’s ass in seven different ways.

You now know two.

Come back Friday to learn one more.

And hey! Check this out. I’m including all this and more in a self-published Kindle book. Sign up here to stay in the loop about further details about that, and if you jump in before the end of the series, I’ll kick you a copy for free.

You’re welcome. You can thank me by telling your friends.

let’s talk about chakras -or- how to get a yoga girl, part 2

29. December 2011 · 2 comments · Categories: damn hippies, how to change your mind, how to do stuff · Tags: dating, guys, how to, kundalini, the best way, tips, yoga

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Ya’ll ready? I’ve had a pretty substantial obsession with chakras for the last several months, and you know me–when I get my heels into something, I don’t stop until I reach as far as it can go.

Spirituality, with its endless differences and similarities, has been a favorite topic of mine for … well, forever. At the ripe old age of 36, turns out I’ve been studying this jive pretty hardcore for the last twenty years. Solid. Sometimes in secret, sometimes organized in classes and degrees. It’s a topic I’ve chased for a long, long time. ’Cuz Baby, I was Born to Run.

Seems a few limitations in my life have lifted and I’m free to start talking about it now. And hey, what do you know, maybe get a little coin from it.

So let’s start at the beginning.

There are seven centers of energy within the human body, known as chakras. I won’t get into the whole historical aspect of that, mostly because it’s boring and also because I don’t feel like doing any more research about it right now. Whether or not you believe in the source of their existence is inconsequential ~ think of a chakra as a focused point of intention. Like a target on a bale of hay.

Each of these seven points of focus represents a culmination of ideas, the experience of mind/body/spirit within the physical self. There’s a lot going on when it comes to chakras, layers upon layers of history and interpretation. You could spend an entire lifetime working through these concepts, and often people do. They’re called yogis.

Here’s the easy version: when your girl’s talking about chakras, she’s talking about a hell of a lot more than rainbows.

Kick her some credit. It’s an intricate system. Women are intricate beings. So are you.

Step up.

Chakra One :: Earth

Right at the base of your fly lil’ honey’s bum, at the point where her legs meet her core, lies the first chakra. Look down. Note that you have the same point on your body, therefore you have one too. (See? You have something in common already.)

This is the source of gravity, inherited instincts, evolution itself.

The work with your first chakra focuses on GROUNDING. The physical self as an organism on the earth, the edges, the limitations. Where the skin of a being ends and the air begins. It represents the strength of your legs, your attachment to the earth. Your roots.

Be like tree.

Simple Meditation for Dudes

Focus on limits. Limits are different than restrictions. Imagine a room. Any kind of room you like. It could be a bathroom, it could be a cathedral…and yes, it can be a bedroom. That’s fine. Within this room, imagine the color of the walls, the style of furniture, what elements would be present in a room of this kind. How can you rearrange the pieces, move things around? Would more space be created if you took something out? Is there a piece of furniture you would like to see?

That’s a limit.

Chances are good that you don’t feel claustrophobic in a regular old living room, right? But you don’t park your car in there.

Restriction means you can’t. Limitation means you work with what you’re given.

Oddly enough, very clear limits create very clear avenues of yes. Or no. Maybe your girl likes white couches and modern decor but you want to hang out in a cabin in the center of the woods. Awareness of the first chakra helps define those lines. It doesn’t mean you can’t put a pristine hunk of furniture in the middle of your lair, but you better be prepared to keep up with some maintenance. Dig?

Breathe.

Right now. Do it.

Witness your breath.

The limits of what your lungs can hold.

Amazingly, such a small amount of oxygen keeps you alive. All day long.

For the advanced version, breathe for three minutes, concentrating on what it feels like to fill and empty the capacity of your lungs.

How to Get the Girl

Talk about your experience with feeling grounded, connected. Spend time outside with her, move your body. Climb on things. Throw rocks. Don’t show off, be casual about it. Talk about your admiration for trees and entities that are deeply rooted. This is about your experience, you can’t fake it. If you don’t know, ask questions. Listen more than you speak.

Are you faking it?

Get back to the mat. Ask yourself why. Listen to the answer. Be humble. Adjust. Release. Repeat.

That’s the work. Go do it.

Yoga with Your Girl

Savasana (corpse pose). Preferably with a view of the sky. Stars are nice. And don’t be getting any ideas about sex. That’s a different chakra.

This is foundation. Limits. Being in one place, one room, one center of concentration. You can’t ride two horses with one ass – you’re not that flexible yet.

We’ll talk about sex next time. Promise.

much love – miss j

mama needs a new hd video camera. wanna help?

14. December 2011 · 5 comments · Categories: buy my stuff, damn hippies

Here’s the Deal

I’m working on a little project.

It requires video.

My video camera is from 2003.

This will not work.

I tried funding this idea on Kickstarter, but they said no. I’m pretty bummed. So I’m asking you guys for help.

This is the camera I’m looking at. I also need some accessories, an extra battery, all that stuff. $400 would cover all of that plus a few little odds and ends I need to do my work. Like notebooks, a chalkboard, stuff like that. Because I will totally be using a chalkboard. I’m old school like that.

The Project

It’s an e-course, self-paced, on creating your own website. The course is geared toward highly visual learners (um, artists) and I will walk you through every bit of the technical stuff step by step. The sites created through this course will have beautiful portfolios, use premium templates made by independent designers, and harness the awesomeness that is WordPress.

We will also cover branding, SEO, authentic voice, and some other tricks of the trade. I’ve spent a long time learning the ropes on this stuff and I do believe it’s high time I share. Why? I like to have peers. Call me crazy. It’s part of the Micro Economy thing and I want to make sure you look good. That’s all.

The cost of the course will also be very affordable, I’m thinking 129 bucks. Contributors will get access to some pretty sweet deals *wink*wink*.

Sound good? Well, I can’t move forward until I get all my gear and I could really use some help. I know there are some plans out there for tackling web sites in the New Year, so I’d like to have this baby ready to roll during the quietest quarter, like February if all goes well. That would mean your site, if you need to build one, would be up and running before summer swings in.

And that’s it.

Five bucks, a hundred…anything is good. Every little bit will help, even if I don’t hit my goal. Which I sincerely believe I can do.

Thanks for the Christmas Miracle, ya’ll. Click here to help.

much love ~ j

imagination and intuition – the two unsung heroes of adulthood

08. August 2011 · Write a comment · Categories: damn hippies

There’s a transition that happens somewhere around adolescence, where imagination is stripped of its charm and transformed into something more concrete. Fixed. Solid.

Basically, all the fun is taken out of it.

We all know the quote from Einstein, about how imagination is more important than knowledge. We inherently know that imagination (creativity), is born within us. It is nurtured and coddled in early life–pixies, storytime, games, play–but there is little emphasis on the importance of imagination in adulthood.

Is imagination a force that only children are allowed to explore? Nurture? Experience?

We substitute the word creativity for imagination, push it farther away from ourselves and refuse to accept our God-given right to play. If you have a pulsing, vivid imagination, it’s likely that someone is ready to hand you a prescription to quiet it down. Imagination–unlike mental illness–is peaceful and constant, a bubbling wealth of “what if” and “I wonder”. It’s a journey deep into your own possibility.

We work with imagination constantly, best explained in a little note I received this morning about parenting. We spin our stories in realistic light, tone down the wild nature of our inner voices. Quietly drone on through the turmoil of a world that’s breaking, ignoring the voice of imagination’s greatest companion: intuition.

So what exactly is intuition?

Simply put, your intuition is your mainline to the Source. It’s the voice that responds rather than reacts, the one you’re referring to when you say things like, “Oh, I knew I should have done that/said this/gone there/chosen here.”

You know what it is.

Moving into alignment with your intuition in our culture takes balls. It means standing in the face of the majority and acting in the highest good, whether the good that you’re representing is self-serving or on the behalf of others. There’s a discord in our culture with intuition, our masculine based systems of power (now on the downfall) have squelched the self-trust and direction we are born into, hindering our natural direction in life and instilling intense waves of confusion.

But ever so steadily, a revolution is taking place.

If you’re a part of this movement, you already know what I mean. The revolution of web-based writers, artists, intuitives, entrepreneurs–there are common threads at work here, neatly weaving the core concepts of imagination and intuition. There are whispers around the edges of a paradigm shift, an embrace of feminine influence, a return to art.

So what is the connection between intuition and imagination?

How do these forces work together in your life?

never enough harold and maude

26. July 2011 · 3 comments · Categories: damn hippies

Harold: Maude.
Maude: Hmm?
Harold: Do you pray?
Maude: Pray? No. I communicate.
Harold: With God?
Maude: With Life.

:: don’t be shy :: cat stevens ::

the new economy is a peacock

13. July 2011 · 1 comment · Categories: damn hippies

photo by wwarby via Creative Commons

And I don’t just say that because I like peacocks.

There is a new regime moving into the scope of the way we know business, and there’s nothing to be afraid of.

The old economy has fallen. It’s broken. It will not be repaired. The New Economy is a shift in consciousness.

A feminine model.

That’s it.

That’s all it is.

photo by Robert Pernett via Creative Commons

No need to panic, no need to squirrel away your energy and run away in search of a place to hide. The new call to action is cooperation, nurturing, working together, taking care of one another, communication, connection.

The old call to action was survival, seek and destroy, divide and conquer.

We have moved out of the survival phase of our existence and into one that revolves around thriving. It does not mean that the masculine model is useless or worthless or out of touch. It means that this new paradigm requires more balance, a softer approach, a more gentle basis of action.

photo by Tony the Misfit via Creative Commons

Think of it like this: one feather of a peacock’s tail is magnificent, awe inspiring, attention grabbing. There’s a magic to it.

An entire display of peacock feathers, all in alignment, working together in one solid vision?

Well, now that’s something to see.

Don’t be scared.

Don’t let them scare you.

The ones who are trying to scare you are the ones stuck in the old model.

Evolve. Grow. Connect.

Repeat.

:: small axe :: bob marley ::

a gift of thirty good days. for you.

16. June 2011 · 1 comment · Categories: damn hippies

Anybody else having an exceptionally crappy week?

I was thinking about how I could use my supersonic powers of happiness and positivity to help others, because often the best way to get yourself out of a rut is to help someone else. And so I thought for a little while…pay it forward? Giveaway on the blog? Offers of peace and gratitude? I’m strapped for time this time of year, so I didn’t want to start making promises I couldn’t keep.

And then I thought about how nice it would be to have a guaranteed run of goodness. Like, a whole month maybe.

While I can’t actually guarantee that you will have a fantastic day for 30 days in a row, I can help you start the day off right with some words of wisdom and a pretty picture. It might help you deal. It might be a high five for the day. It might be nothing more than an observation of gratitude and good will.

This isn’t a gimmick to get you on my mailing list so I can send you countless offers of stuff-to-buy. It’s an offering from my heart to yours, from one person struggling in a moment to another.

Have a great day out there.